Children need correction. They may need it often.
Some children accept correction more easily than others.
Using the skill of Correcting Behaviors (known in the Teaching-Family Model as Corrective Teaching) will help you structure your feedback in a way that is consistent for you and them. It also allows your child to recognize and practice the appropriate behavior.
Correction should not be about you being right and your child being wrong. It should be about helping your child understand there are better ways to do things.
Here are three suggestions to help you in using the skill of Correcting Behaviors with your child:
- Stay calm. If your child reacts negatively someone must remain calm and it might as well be you.
- You can practice the appropriate behavior when things are more calm if you or your child are too angry at the moment. The goal is to teach them the better way.
- Focus on one issue at a time. Avoid allowing your child to change the subject because they may do this to avoid the discomfort they feel.
The most important thing is to work with your child to understand the more appropriate behavior and to PRACTICE it multiple times.
If you want to be sure your child is able to implement this new behavior you can set up a planned practice. This means you will tell your child that you will ask them later that same day at a random time to do what you have been practicing to see if he/she is able to do it like they did in the practice. If so, they can earn a reward. This planned practice is a good way to allow your child to use the skill at a random time to see how much is remembered. Be sure to work with them patiently. Children learn by seeing as well as by doing so set a good example.