30 topics to discuss besides children on date night
Settling down on the couch after the kids have finally gone to bed and turning on the most recent TV series you and your spouse are binge watching is often a good relaxing substitute for planning a date night. But planning occasional date nights is important and necessary to keep the relationship strong.
The foundation of every family is the relationship between the husband and wife, and the quality of this relationship affects your interactions as a whole family. So much time and energy is spent on children and their needs, your relationship with them, and working to provide a living, that it takes extra planning to ensure there is time left in the day for your husband or wife. Besides the coveted uninterrupted time with your honey, date nights also provide a respite from the daily routine of caring for children.
Going out to movies and other entertainment events are great date nights because they don’t require meticulous planning and they let you have a chance to flirt and cuddle. You might finally get a chance to talk about a lot of things, but talking about your children during date night is also natural and often desired. It’s enjoyable to share funny stories, it’s an interest you both share, and it provides a good opportunity to talk about the needs of your children while they aren’t present. However, despite the ease of talking about your children, date nights are a perfect opportunity to develop your relationship and continue to learn about each other. To help in stimulating conversations, here are 30 topics to get you started:
1. Where do you find yourself/us in 5 years? 10 years?
2. What new hobbies are you interested in?
3. Tell a childhood story I have never heard.
4. Where is your dream vacation?
5. What is one thing in your day that you can’t live without?
6. How would you spend a perfect day?
7. Which parent are you closer to and why?
8. What can I do that best says, “I love you”?
9. Which reality show would you like to be a part of?
10. What are you most thankful for?
11. What do you think about when you’re by yourself?
12. Choose a movie title for the story of your life.
13. What’s one thing that people always misunderstand about you?
14. Who has had the biggest impact on you?
15. What was the worst phase of your life?
16. What was the best phase of your life?
17. If you could see 24 hours into the future what would you do with this ability?
18. What’s one thing you would like to change about yourself?
19. What did your parents teach you that you appreciate now?
20. At which store would you like to max-out your credit card?
21. What is your favorite memory of dating me?
22. What was your first favorite movie as a child?
23. If you could go back in time, what age would you be again?
24. What do you hope most to be remembered for?
25. Do you think I’m more of an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist?
26. What single piece of technology makes your life easier?
27. What was the worst punishment you received as a child?
28. What gift did I give you that was the greatest surprise?
29. In what way has marriage/parenthood been better than you expected?
30. In what areas are we the same?
Date night is a perfect time for you and your spouse to practice the skill of Effective Communication.
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