Ep #155: How to manage multiple schedules
For many parents, managing numerous activities and schedules. It is okay, even healthy, to evaluate and reduce your family commitments.
Kids are growing up with access to online, and parents must help them navigate that safely.
A one-size-fits-all approach to internet safety and usage isn’t realistic. Your child’s age and needs should determine screen time and internet usage and recommend using the same rules to both your child’s online and virtual environment.
Parents should be monitoring what their child is doing online. You should be familiar with what apps, games, and websites they are visiting and what they are teaching. There are a lot of apps and articles that can give parents an idea of what their child is doing online. One we recommend is Common Sense Media. Parents can find additional app recommendations in the show notes at SmarterParenting.com
As they grow, how they interact with apps and online may change. It’s essential to have continued conversations about what is appropriate and inappropriate. Effective Communication allows both parents and children to have meaningful, healthy, and productive discussions regarding time limits, usage, and how they spend their time online, creating healthy digital literacy.
As technology becomes more ingrained in our lives, the recommendation for a child’s use of technology has changed and will continue to change. What type of media your child is accessing is more important than how long they are accessing it. For example, it’s better for a child to play an interactive learning game for three hours than playing a non-learning game for an hour.
While thinking about everything you need to teach your child about online safety may feel overwhelming, remember you don’t need to teach everything all at once. It would be best if you were having ongoing conversations that you adjust and revisit as needed. You can do this!
For more information about online safety, don’t forget to check out this episode’s notes on SmarterParenting.com
The transcript text is below. You can also download the PDF file of the transcript here.
Olivia and Stan called about their concerns with screen time for their seven-year-old son, Stephen, and how he would throw tantrums when asked to turn a device off. We initially worked on dealing with the tantrum but the bigger issue was helping them navigate how to keep their children safe online as they grow.
Three things that we will cover in this podcast:
By the end of this podcast you will understand the things you should consider about screen time with your child, some recommended filters, and how to talk about digital literacy using Effective Communication to avoid problems. It will help you feel more comfortable in this area.
a small study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) showed significant impact on brain development when children between ages three to five years were exposed, unsupervised, to more than the amount of recommended screen time.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that children ages eight to 10 spend an average of six hours per day in front of a screen, kids ages 11 to 14 spend an average of nine hours per day in front of a screen, and youth ages 15 to 18 spend an average of seven-and-a-half hours per day in front of a screen. Link
As your child grows, a one-size-fits-all approach doesn’t work as well. You’ll need to decide how much media to let your child use each day and what’s appropriate.
Consider applying the same rules to your child’s real and virtual environments. In both, play with your child, teach kindness, be involved, and know your child’s friends and what your child does with them. Also, keep in mind that the quality of the media your child is exposed to is more important than the type of technology or amount of time spent.
To ensure quality screen time:
Also, avoid fast-paced programming, which young children have a hard time understanding, apps with a lot of distracting content, and violent media. Eliminate advertising on apps, since young children have trouble telling the difference between ads and factual information.
At some point your child will be exposed to content that you haven’t approved and devices without internet filters. Talk to your child about the situations that could occur and the behavior you expect.
Encourage your child to think critically about what they see on their screens. Ask your child to consider whether everything on the internet is accurate. Does your child know how to tell if a website is trustworthy? Help your child understand that media are made by humans with points of view. Explain that many types of technology collect data to send users ads or to make money.
Set reasonable limits for your child’s screen time, especially if your child’s use of screens is hindering involvement in other activities. Consider these tips:
Link to monitoring apps online
Steps to Effective Communication:
I practiced this with Olivia to help her know how to talk about Stanley’s tantrum behavior and the cause of it as well as stating her own opinion. Role-played it.
Purpose is to help children be safe online and help parents set appropriate boundaries. Hang in there, you can do this.