— Behavior Issues
Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD)
ODD in our children
ODD in Our Children
Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD) is a diagnosis that is founded through a pattern of defiant behavior lasting longer than six months. This ODD diagnosis can be overwhelming for parents and make it difficult to keep and maintain relationships and an empathetic perspective. Take a breath and get ready. When it comes to how to parent a child with ODD, it will take patience and consistency in order to see changes happen. The good news is that many of the recommended approaches include family participation. Learn more about the disorder and techniques that help intervene. The lessons and classes on Smarter Parenting are ideal for ODD because they are based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques that are proven to address ODD symptoms.
Parenting a Child with ODD
- Be sure your child understands the concept that behaviors are preceded by thoughts or actions. This concept is very important.
- Discuss with your child the antecedents to their behaviors. What causes them? Help them define these and write them on a piece of paper for later review.
- Explore options for other behaviors to occur when those antecedents occur.
- Remember to be patient when correcting behaviors. You will often need to address the behavior but return later to practice the new behavior when things are calm. This is okay. Take a break, but always come back. If you move on and forget to come back, it can extend the negative behavior.
- Be sure they practice the new behavior (whatever you decide it to be) at least 3 times. The more practice, the more likely the new behavior will be ingrained, and they will adopt it as a “new normal” behavior.
- Use the SODAS Decision Making skill to allow your older child to help make autonomous decisions. Help them take the lead and make choices when possible.