Where to begin
1. Watch and review the lesson video and memorize each step to this skill.
2. Complete the Finding a Meaningful Reason worksheet. This will help you with step 6 of the skill.
3. Review the Activities and Games section on this page and choose one or two activities you think would be helpful in teaching your child this skill.
4. Print out the steps to the skill for your child and for easy reference. If you need help, complete this Observe and Describe Worksheet you will know what to say during every step of the skill. Depending on the age of your child, download the child or teen worksheet.
5. Go over the steps to the skill with your child and engage them with an activity or game to learn the skill. Keep the printout available for easy reference.
6. Practice the steps of the skill as often as possible during the activity. Continue to practice the steps as a role-play as well if possible.
7. Set up a time to practice this skill again later the same day or the next day. Continue to practice using the skill often, even after your child has mastered it. It is always helpful to practice to reinforce the steps to the skill.
Print out a copy of the steps to Correcting Behaviors for easy reference.
Suggestions for parents when teaching this skill
Be calm and patient. Your reaction will set the mood for how your child will react to learning new ways to behave.
You can also show empathy by telling your child this is a new skill for you to learn and that you both have to work on getting it right.
Be sure to work through “Finding a Meaningful Reason” worksheet. This will help you determine what to do in step 6 of this skill. This is very important.
Expect some mistakes during the practice. This is normal. Work through them.
Continue to practice this skill until it becomes second nature. Practice it every time you see a behavior that needs to be corrected. Practice makes perfect.
Help, Activities, and Testimonials
Supporting articles related to Correcting Behaviors from the web
Child Temperament: Relationship with Child Behavior Problems and Parent-Child Interactions. Journal of Clinical Psychology.
Behavior Profiles of Children with Specific Language Impairments and High Functioning Autism. Neurology April 8, 2014 vol. 82 no. 10 Supplement I4-1.006
Smarter Parenting blog posts
Legos: correct me ’til it’s right
Dave explains how to use Legos to go over the skill of Correcting Behaviors with your child using Legos.
How to use this activity
Do this activity with children between 4 and 10 years old. Be sure to practice at a neutral time. If your child becomes irritated with the correction they are given, take time to slow down. You may also need to provide small, very specific information.
Game of Life
Life board game, printed out instructions, cards for the game and a printed copy of the steps to Correcting Behaviors for easy reference. The Game of Life challenges each player to make choices throughout their life in the game. The board game is great for exploring consequences to choices. It can also be used as a way for you to make corrections and allow for your child to “re-do” or practice/role-play a specific consequence in order to earn some privileges back. We have re-purposed cards and stops along the board game that walks a child through their entire day. This includes waking up in the morning, eating breakfast, going to school, peer pressure, chores, earning allowance, etc. With a few adjustments you can use this game as a way to correct behaviors and practice the appropriate behaviors all within the rules of the game. This should allow you to communicate more openly about choices. Cards and instructions are available here. This game has also been re-purposed so you can play it with the skill of Preventive Teaching.
Denise talks about using the skill of Correcting Behaviors to get positive results.
Cody and Mandy
Cody and Mandy share how the skill of Correcting Behaviors helped with their son Gavin’s Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD).
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